io_uring/cmd: let cmds to know about dying task

When the taks that submitted a request is dying, a task work for that
request might get run by a kernel thread or even worse by a half
dismantled task. We can't just cancel the task work without running the
callback as the cmd might need to do some clean up, so pass a flag
instead. If set, it's not safe to access any task resources and the
callback is expected to cancel the cmd ASAP.

Reviewed-by: Jens Axboe <axboe@kernel.dk>
Reviewed-by: Ming Lei <ming.lei@redhat.com>
Signed-off-by: Pavel Begunkov <asml.silence@gmail.com>
Signed-off-by: David Sterba <dsterba@suse.com>