netfilter: nf_tables: bogus EBUSY when deleting set after flush

[ backport for 4.14 of 273fe3f1 ]

Set deletion after flush coming in the same batch results in EBUSY. Add
set use counter to track the number of references to this set from
rules. We cannot rely on the list of bindings for this since such list
is still populated from the preparation phase.

Reported-by: Václav Zindulka <vaclav.zindulka@tlapnet.cz>
Signed-off-by: Pablo Neira Ayuso <pablo@netfilter.org>
Signed-off-by: Sasha Levin <sashal@kernel.org>